This week I received a message from one of my clients and my heart just wanted to burst.
I always send out a questionnaire to my new clients, to get some background and history on what they’re struggling with, so that I am prepared for our sessions together. One of the questions is “If there was an event in your life that you wish didn’t happen, what would it be?” This gives a pretty good indicator of a root issue that needs to be addressed in order for things to change. It may not be the biggest issue, but it’s hugely important and a good place to start.
So on our 2nd session, I suggested we look at this traumatic memory. She was quite emotional just discussing it, which again was a good indication that it needed to be dealt with, and I mentioned this to her. I explained that I was not going to push her into going anywhere she didn’t feel comfortable with, but that she would definitely benefit from doing this work . If she wanted to stop at any point, then we would. She agreed to try.
So I explained how it would work and I would guide her, holding her hand every step of the way, as it were. There was nothing to fear, she didn’t have to share any details, she did not need to relive the event herself. So step by step, we worked through this traumatic memory. It took only half an hour to completely transform her feelings about this event, and she felt such relief and positivity afterwards. I was really happy with the work we’d done and was proud of my client for fighting her fears.
When you have an eating disorder, it’s scary to reach out for help as you fear losing control, which seems to be the only thing keeping you safe. It’s hard to trust as you think other people are just going to make you eat more and make you fat. It’s a difficult place to be, stuck between being desperate for help but also being terrified of receiving that help. I know, I’ve been there. But staying where you are is never going to change anything. And I offer a helping hand, every step of the way, working in a gentle yet effective way, making sure you feel safe at all times. I know how important this is.
If you’re looking for help but not sure if you can trust, you fear losing control, and just want to stay safe, book a call with me and we can just have a chat, and get to know each other a bit. If you feel that I could help you, great. If not, that’s fine. I’m very much into respecting people’s choices and would never pressure you into working with me. That’s just not who I am.
But I may be just the person you’ve been looking for. You’ll never know unless you try. Book a call with me now.