When you think about recovery, it can be very daunting and impossible to imagine. What even is recovery? Recovery seems scary because we tend to associate it with being healthy and let’s face it, being bigger. It seems like such a long, long road and what do we get at the end, being fat. Why would we want that?
But that’s Ana talking. She makes your world black and white, all or nothing. Everything is to do with weight and size and nothing else matters. She’s probably been a voice in your head for a while now and you trust what she says. She promised you that everything would be OK if you just restricted what you ate, if you just lost more weight. But how’s that working out for you? Is everything OK? Are you happy?
Now I need to be clear here because Ana certainly doesn’t mix her words when she talks to you. Ana is not your friend, she is your enemy, she doesn’t want you to be happy, she wants to destroy you. She is like an abusive partner, a bully. She feeds off your insecurity and low self esteem and she manipulates you to get what she wants. She isolates you from others, so that you are easier to control. And it’s working isn’t it?
What I and others have found, since letting go of Ana, is that recovery means being free of that voice in your head, free of the battle! It means feeling:
- relaxed around food.
- relaxed around people.
- relaxed about your weight.
- confident and good about yourself.
- happy and content.
- able to cope with life.
- special as you are.
- like you belong.
- that you have purpose.
It also means being able to live your life to the full and creating exciting opportunities for yourself.
But don’t think of recovery as a long road which may feel overwhelming. Break it down into achievable parts. Like a project you need to complete at work. And give it 100%, just as if you were at work. Take one small step at a time, just focusing on the task in front of you.
Some days will feel easier than others, and you may have a set back. But just pick yourself up, dust yourself down and keep walking, again taking those small steps. And if you’re tempted to give up, just because of the set back, realise that you haven’t gone back to square one. You’ve just gone back a few squares, you’re still progressing, keep going!!
If you want to talk through what recovery could look like for you, book a discovery call with me today.